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07-14-2007, 04:26 PM
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Nursing Homes**Discussion
Nursing Homes
I’ll start this discussion with an Arabic short story that I’ve read recently, and I want to share it with you Once there was an old man sitting with his mid 40’s son one afternoon. The father was looking out of the window, while the son was too busy reading daily news paper. The father asked his son “Can you see that crow on the tree.” The son looked annoyed and said “No I don’t father.” After a while the father asked the same question. The son seemed more angry this time and answered “No father I don’t.” and went back flipping through the paper. Not long the father asked the same question again. The son was too angry, got up from his chair went to towards his father, closed the curtains and said “No I don’t see any crows, and neither can you,” and went back reading the news paper leaving his father with his sorrows. The father got up and left the room then came back holding a box and asked his son to join him. The son was surprised to see his father keeping photos of both him when he was a child, he looked at his father happily and saw how sad he was, the father quickly said “when you were a child you used to ask me not 3 questions but many, and I made time to listen and answer you, now that I’m old and I need you a lot more, you chose to ignore me and get annoyed being surrounded by me, may ALLAH forgive you my son.” Maybe the father was lucky on getting his point through to his son, but some weren’t that lucky. You hear about nursing homes usually in the western countries, where parents give their children their full freedom, and as they reach their adult age, usually at 18, the parents ask their sons and daughters to move out of home. Christmas becomes the only holiday where the family gather together in a whole year. Life becomes busy, parents become old, and their body gets weak and no one close to give them the care they need. They take themselves to nursing homes where they meet new people like their situation, and some care givers, till the day they die. But it struck me to hear that there are Arabs who take their parents to these homes, because they don’t have time, patience, and responsibilities to take care of their senior members. My questions What is your opinion of Nursing homes? And what is the statistics of Nursing homes in your country? Jana 
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07-14-2007, 07:02 PM
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salam alukiem sister Jana
i'll be back soon after gather my ideas good job sister
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07-22-2007, 02:44 PM
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I have to say Jana that this story evokes mixed feelings within me....
It's shocking how sons and daughters can be cruel and unmerciful with their parents.... Back to your questions: I am totally against nursing home if childern are alive.... This idea of putting parents in such a place is not an Islamic manner....And not humanity at all... If my mom or dad asks me for my life I'll be ready and happy to give it to them,,honestly... They are my blessing and my happiness...Without them I might die  The second question which is about statistics...I really have no idea about it...But I think the number is increasing.....And it becomes phenomenon....And the major reason is that people are moving away from Shree3ah..... ================ The story touches my heart deeply.....I appreciate it Jana May Allah bless your soul...And give you blessed childeren Yours, |
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07-31-2007, 05:59 AM
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اقتباس:
i'll be waiting for your comment take your time 
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07-31-2007, 06:18 AM
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اقتباس:
This story is one of millions i'm sure there are a lot more stories worse than this one But still, it does not represent all muslims because we have a different way of life we give all our respect and appreciation to those who sacrified their time, give us love and care, and we put them way up high, and their needs is above everyone else But a question came to mind what happens if your parents( allah forbid) asked you that they feel uncomfortable living with you, and asked you to take them to nursing home What do you think the advantage and disadvantages of nursing homes Thank you sooooo much sister for your comment May allah bless you and your parents and inshallah your children Jana
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08-01-2007, 07:05 AM
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Al Salam 3lycom wa ra7mat Allah wa barakatoh
hey,Jana...how're you The story recalls sadness and pain, really That I just feel how girls and boys these day are dealing with their parents and how we thank our parents to what they have done to us actually, we give them nothing and we can't but at least we have to do our best about nursing homes I just heard about them from TV and I never know anyone in my country but for sure there are and that is very sad that children do not have time for caring about their dad and mum and asking athers to give that to them but you know what sometimes I thank Allah that there are nursing house because parents can meet another people who love them and care about them more than their bad childern who give them nothing In my opinion, I really don't like it and it's better for me to die that to that with my neighboar not dad or mum but sometimes it's better for some dads or mums to go there to find some kind of love they haven't recieved
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08-01-2007, 06:01 PM
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sallam 3leekum
thanks jana for such an interesting topic im a qualified nurse and work in england at present so here in the west we have large amount of nursing homes and it was only recently i discovered that nursing homes also excist in the arab country i was shocked and angery because as muslims we should know better and not dump our parents somewhere different with starnge people, after all they spend all their lives looking after us so where is the problem if we return the favour to them i will never consider putting my parents in those places no matter how hard it gets but what i think should happen in the arab country that already happens in the west is have day centres where the parents can go there mett new people, make friends place some games but go home at the end of the day and that could either be 3 times a weekk or even once a week and it does make a difference i think thanks again for such a interesting topic |
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08-14-2007, 06:33 PM
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salam alukiem
i'm back sister jana and i'm sorry for taking that long time i think that nursing homes no need for it in our muslim countries but what happened is the influance from western countries on us. we as muslims love what westren countries do and we think that they're right in everything... not all of muslim but we have a lot some will say the life is so hard and we dont have time to take good care of our parents, so they put them in the nursing homes. I'll say that if they did it to their parents... their children will do the same to them. it's really make me sad to hear this story and others but it's a fact that we should face it and i think we have a lot of these homes in the arabian gulf i don't have the excatly number but be sure there are a lot hope we wont do it to our parents and thanks again for your topic take care and have fun bundy
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