Rules of Endearment

**طواش** · 07-27-2008, 06:22 PM

My dear friends, Al Salam 3alekum

Today I thought of writing these rules to my youngster brothers and sisters, rules of endearment

First of all, let me explain the meaning of the term 'endearment'

Endearment is the noun form, its verb is 'to endear'. You usually use the term endear in this way

To endear yourself to somebody; it means to 'to cause someone to be liked by someone'. So, if you 'endear yourself to someone', it means you make someone like you, or do something so that someone would like you

In Arabic it means

يُحبّب المرء نفسه عند أحد، أو يجعل من نفسه محبوباً لدى أحد

The noun is Endearment, while the adjective is Endearing

Example: Sultan wanted to move to another office, but his senior officer refused. Therefore, Sultan tried to endear himself to his boss by praising his favorite team, and his attempt paid off eventually

Now you know why these rules are so important that I've decided to write about today

You might ask yourselves: "But endearment shouldn't have any rules, they should be living within us and we should practice them spontaneously", and you would be right on that

However, I noticed often that people just make others dislike them just because they lack what I call 'Rules of Endearment'; and believe me results could be disastrous sometimes, especially when loved ones are involved

Al right, since I've introduced the subject to you all, I will shortly begin with the first of my Rules of Endearment

Watch this space for it

Regards

**طواش** · 07-28-2008, 09:18 AM

Rule no.1 is Respect

Respect has a magical effect on establishing and reinforcing relationships, hence endearing one to others

My own definition of Respect is quite simple: To do what others like and avoid what they dislike, that is what I do to my dear ones

However, in order to successfully be respectful to others, one should first respect himself, or have what is called self-respect

The need to respect others come from the basic idea of equality, that which states that we all are equal and no one is better than another; that's basically speaking of course, because there are factors which differentiate one person from another

The biggest mistake one can make is to accidentally be disrespectful to others, or do something what others dislike, usually with what you do, or rather what you say

I think the best way to avoid that problem is to put yourself in his/her place before doing or saying certain things. Only when we do that we could figure out whether what we are going to do or say is respectful or not

Well, I guess everyone already know that, but consider it a little reminder, eh

Having said that, the opposite of Respect is Disrespect

I will get back to you later with the second Rule of Endearment

Regards

**BrAv3_h3ArT** · 07-31-2008, 10:45 PM

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرِّحِيْم

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Salam Brother Tawash

Thank you very much for the topic

This topic about Endearment and it is very important in our life even home or work

And as you said we can get the endearment by respecting people

As human we like to treated respectful

So, we should Treat people the way we want to be treated

Thanks brother for unique topic

We well be waiting for rest of rules

All the best

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HEART

**طواش** · 08-01-2008, 02:19 PM

اقتباس:

المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة BrAv3_h3ArT

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرِّحِيْم

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Salam Brother Tawash

Thank you very much for the topic

This topic about Endearment and it is very important in our life even home or work

And as you said we can get the endearment by respecting people

As human we like to treated respectful

So, we should Treat people the way we want to be treated

Thanks brother for unique topic

We well be waiting for rest of rules

All the best

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BRAVE
HEART

Hey pal, thanks for stopping by

I thought no one found my efforts worthwhile, but here you go

Third rule of endearment is coming up

**طواش** · 08-01-2008, 02:21 PM

Today I bring you the second rule of Endearment; tact

Tact is a very important rule and many people lack it nowadays, the effect of which is dangerous on close relationships

Tact means the ability to do or say something at a suitable time, without angering others

In Arabic it translates to

الذوق

The adjective form is: Tactful

The opposite form is: Tactless, or as we say in the UAE

دفش

So how important tact is to endearing yourself to others? It's important big time indeed

People have emotions, both of happiness and sadness. So, what makes someone happy, might be the same thing that makes another sad

When emotions leave varying effects on people, so does your approach to them

So, one needs to be tactful when dealing with people, because if you say or do the 'right thing' but in the 'wrong time', it could get you in troubles

For instance, you can't tell someone grieving* one of his relatives a bad news, no matter how necessary you need to break the news to him. Because doing that 'necessary thing' at that particular time is not 'tactful'; it could make him more miserable than he is already

Examples of tact are plenty, but I guess you grasped the whole idea of my presentation, didn't you

I hope I managed to explain the second rule quite simply

Watch out for the third one shortly

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To grieve someone means to express great sadness at someone's death. The noun form is 'Grieving'; while the adjectives could be two: a) 'Grieving'; feeling sad because someone died, b) 'Grievous'; having great effect, or causing great pain

**BrAv3_h3ArT** · 08-01-2008, 09:36 PM

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرِّحِيْم

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اقتباس:

Hey pal, thanks for stopping by

I thought no one found my efforts worthwhile, but here you go

Third rule of endearment is coming up

Salam alaikum brother Tawash

The word ENDEARMENT new for me, I never heard it before

I like learn new words, so I interest in it

One more point is that your presentation in great and showing it step by step

Thanks bro

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HEART

**BrAv3_h3ArT** · 08-01-2008, 10:29 PM

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرِّحِيْم

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Tawash my dear brother

Mashallah you come back with another rule of endearment;TACT

This word also new for me

اقتباس:

So, one needs to be tactful when dealing with people, because if you say or do the 'right thing' but in the 'wrong time'

Tact is kind of Communication skills

To be in good position and let others respect you should be tactful

Keep going mano

Take care

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HEART

Rose Of Hope · 08-09-2008, 06:52 AM

Monsieur Tawwash

I really like your topic. I'd like to comment on your second rule

of endearment which is tact. As you said, many people are not either

aware or don't care about being tactful. Some people call it " etiquette".

for example, it is not appropriate to ask a woman about her age.

I remember watching this show , i believe on sama dubai, and the guest

of the show was the Mohammed al Marzouqi. He explained many

rules that we may not pay attention to in our daily life. One of the rules he

mentioned was the handshake between the two sexes. men are not

supposed to initiate the handshake if the other person is a woman. If the

woman initiates the handshake then he is supposed to shake her hand

Although etiquette rules may vary from a culture to another, there are

certain sets of etiquette rules that are recognized all over the world.

Peace,

Rose

**طواش** · 08-09-2008, 10:11 AM

اقتباس:

المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة BrAv3_h3ArT

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرِّحِيْم

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Salam alaikum brother Tawash

The word ENDEARMENT new for me, I never heard it before

I like learn new words, so I interest in it

One more point is that your presentation in great and showing it step by step

Thanks bro

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BRAVE
HEART

Hey bro, it's nice to know that you are learning new words from me

You will do that so often, my inventory of vocabulary is good

Third rule of endearment is coming up soon

Regards

**طواش** · 08-09-2008, 10:13 AM

اقتباس:

المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة BrAv3_h3ArT

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرِّحِيْم

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Tawash my dear brother

Mashallah you come back with another rule of endearment;TACT

This word also new for me

Tact is kind of Communication skills

To be in good position and let others respect you should be tactful

Keep going mano

Take care

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BRAVE
HEART

Know this brother, that many people lack 'tact', they just do things without considering it first. And what's really bad about is that they don't even realize their mistakes

Thanks for stopping by

Regards

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